Idea to Enjoy life........in my own Way !!

Have you ever been to any Car race or watched one on TV? The cars, these super machines of speed,fly around the tracks at speeds of sometimes over 200 MPH. These hyped up bunches of steel drive so fast,they can barely see the road in front of them, never mind what is around them. The crowd goes by them in a blur, the trees are un-recognizable at best. The only thing they can see are the other cars going just as fast as they are.In order to see the things around them, they must slow down to speeds so that their eyes can catch up to their brains in order to see what they are missing... the beautiful things.
Sometimes, it is the same with life. People tend to go warp speed and never realize that life, their life, is passing by  right before their eyes. They are missing out on beautiful things that are right in front of them and all around them because  they move so quickly. From the moment they wake up, they take a shower at warp speed, get ready at a million miles an hour, and then rush out the door and speed to work.They come home after work and eat a quick dinner, maybe get busy with their laptops for a few moments and then off to bed... maybe taking a couple minutes to read the paper or watch the news, but for the most part, everything whisks by at the speed of light.
Life is meant to be enjoyed. It is meant to be peaceful and full of bliss. We should take some time out of every day and be grateful for  everything and everyone in our lives. In some instances, we are moving way too fast to even give a please or a thank you. We should stop once in a while and just look around with admiration that yes, our lives are beautiful....
I read a quote some time ago and it said something like... "Even seeds take the time to push through what seems to be tons of dirt, only to grow into  a beautiful flower.You see, in order to become something beautiful in every way, it takes time, it takes nurturing and being in the right environment. We have to be diligent on our journey and realize that fast is not always better.
Cherish each and every day as if it were your last. Let's be honest here... we are on the way to dying... a morbid fact, but a fact it is. Do you not want to enjoy it while you are standing and breathing? I know I do.

Cricket this Year !!

Although cricket is not the official national sport in India, it begets much more excitement and a greater fan following than the official national sport Hockey. Why only hockey? In fact no other sport in India can claim the position of cricket in respect to its popularity and revenue generation.
Today cricket in India play the role of an adhesive in this land of contrasts and contradiction. At least the Indians from Srinagar to Kochi from Mumbai to Kolkata have some thing in common! No wonder an ace Indian cricketer is worshipped like a deity. Whether he is from Uttaranchal or Andhra Pradesh from Maharashtra or Arunachal Pradesh , hardly makes any difference. The movie stars from Bollywood, the biggest film industry in Asia, do not even enjoy the similar status.
People are ready to work out their social events, leaves from office and travel plans tallying with the Indian cricket team's schedule,Facebook updates with latest scores,no one will be online to chat :P ,Streets, offices, schools and hospitals run empty that day...u can consider all these as flip side of cricket fever !!  Having said that the question is "Who is going to win this year" ???
Well... Australia rules are gone,England hopes forever, Pakistan jumps allover,West Indies firing in air, New Zealand are following none,Sri lanka is enjoying home run,South Africa may get In, Is India going to win ??? :) !!   I know answer to this question is little spectical rite now specially when it is "Cricket"...so let be a surprise  :)  and we can enjoy each & every match without any expactation !!!

Shaadi wadi..hai raaba !!

Sometimes I question more about our society and its rules. I live in India, I am born and raised here just like other lower middle class families raise their kids.Since I keep my mind open and invite constructive criticism all the time, I have observed some very strong and stupid standards and unsaid idiotic rules of Indian society.

Lets talk about a typical Indian marriage here.A guy and a girl marry , all families are happy, they throw a marriage party where thousands of people eat and drink and then dance like crazy. Hundreds of songs played at loud volumes disturbing the peace of those sleeping. Why disturb the peace of those who are sleeping after doing a lots of hard and honest work ? There is a reason for this, its the day of happiness, comes only once in person’s lifetime, its the union of two souls, an unforgettable day, so dancing, loud speakers and songs and drinks are the way to express the inner joy. First year of marriage goes fine, in fact first 6 months are great.They walk on the road bumping into each other all the time, they do shopping together, they laugh together, they eat together three times a day, they sleep together. The happiness is dripping so much from their faces that you can put a bucket and collect 10 liters of it in 1 hour. Go fast forward 4 years, the same girl and guy have become mother and father, both are still married but now no happiness on their faces, no dripping, at this point even if you put a bucket beneath their faces, its not going to fill in 10 years. They no longer eat together three times a day, they no longer laugh together and in fact man is looking for opportunity to sleep with someone else. They are on bed, but they no longer sleep together, they are no longer making love anymore, they are just doing sex for the sake of it.

Indian Men are opportunistic, if the guy says I never slept with anyone then it means he did not get the opportunity, it never means that he did not or does not want to (always remember the 5% exceptional men and women). The women can’t sleep with someone else in most of the times because she is suppressed in a male dominated society. The wife does shopping and the husband now is standing outside of the shop, he has lost interest in her. When they walk they no longer bump into each other. In fact, one of my friends joked that if you see a 5 feet distance in a couple, you can conclude that they married 5 years ago. Husband is going in one direction and wife is going into another. Those friends and relatives who drank and danced at your marriage are not going to come to you now, to advice on marriage life, in fact they themselves don’t know anything. They don’t know anything because they never tried to observe and feel what is right and what is wrong with this whole society. This is the story of all Indian marriages.

I was heard very bluntly, very softly, in serious voice, in an angered face, from my closed frnds & cousions on different occasions that if you let your wife talk to other guys like she used to before marriage, like as if she is still a girl, then you will loose her, she will find someone else she likes and then may sleep with him (her ?) and will always find satisfaction from that person. This is the level of intelligence of a typical Indian Husband/Wife. Over the years, I have observed, analyzed and contemplated a lot about the society where I am living, the people of this society, its rules, its ethics, its qualities, its effects on kids, its side-effects, advantages of raising a kid in this way, disadvantages etc. I kept on thinking all over the years and I am still thinking. What I found is that the basic thought process of an Indian husband/Wife is completely in short-circuit mode. If you let your wife/husband talk to someone and she/he runs away with that person then it means she/he never loved you. If she/he really loves you then she/he will never ever compare you to anyone else at all, she/he will stay with you. Don’t you think its great to know the truth ? Actually, Its not about finding out that your woman/man talks to whom, its not even about forcing her/him to do the household work, its just about finding the truths of your surroundings, finding the basic roots of your society. Why don’t you throw a party that day because you found the truth ? Or is it because since the whole society lives in a lie then you decided to live in lie to, exact carbon-copy. Whats the point of living whole life in a lie. We are married thats all what is required to know. Why ? .. they don’t know the reasons, they don’t know the rational way, they have forgotten their own identities.

Whole of the society is running, moving, walking in one direction, in one line, like a herd of sheep and when someone from that herd tries to go out, they call him/her crazy and after some years he/she is labeled as the man/woman with exceptional god gifted skill. No one wants to apply reasoning that why he/she is there today, at that point of life and why I am here still.

Guitarist In Me !!

Always used to get fond of others whenever saw anyone playing "Guitar" and wanted to learn it. Well never got the chance to learn it tough. But when I came Noida back get to know that there is place near my PG called "Guitar Monk" where one can learn guitar very well. I enquired for the timing & Charges for the same. Holy Crap 3500/- for Just 12 hours...I was like WTF??
But I do not wanted to give up this time...so better NO more shopping for this month Preity n go ahead. So finally decided to start learning guitar.

I wanted to play the guitar just for the sake of playing. No purpose. No motive. I feel you don’t have to be a great player to derive pleasure from playing the guitar n my roomy motivated me a lot for this. Being a Guitar player she told me pleasure of learning guitar n I saw her playing it...n she plays it too good...Specially "Hotel California" tats my fav...

First day at Guitar monk was like "Wow"...Kapil sir is playing guitar for almost 17 yrs now...n he is too good in it. But when I held "Guitar" for the first time. I was like "How to hold it Man”?? :P...there was one more gal who was layman like me...toh I was little bit relaxed. One more is there like me :))..That day came to know that for playing guitar u need to have ur nails cut properly...i felt good first time on my short nails as i have a bad Nail biting habit!! I was like " Chalo kahin toh kam aaya " !!!

Initial days goes with the finger exercises which is still going on for me...in which u will feel n number of times to give up..Beacuse it is damm tiring n boring...ur fingers ll literary cry with pain...But once u come up with all that pain u can be who knows a damm good "rock star" :)..the day i played my 1st "Dhun" tat is " Twinkle Twinkle little star" I was on 7th Sky...i was considering myself not less than any "Rock Star" :P seriously tat feeling was an awesome one :)..Since than it’s going on...

But seriously it is a beautiful art. And it is a wonderful instrument. It helps you to develop your romantic understanding of rationality. Practicing any art does that. Learning guitar is one of the easier ways to do it.
Learning Guitar is going on for me...n i believe it ll go from now onwards.... :))!!!

My 25th b'day (22nd July 2010)

After long waiting day arrived so that I can celebrate with my closed ones though it did nt turn out the way i wanted to be but still some good as well as bad memories are related to this day which I would like to share thru this blog.

12am (22/7/2010) :- My mobile rang which wake me up from my deep dreams...n it was "Kritika" who wanted to wish me 1st  though i wanted sumone's "else" to wish me 1st  but never mind still whole day is thr for that.In the meantime I heard sum noise from my hall n found out that my sweet roomie's arranged a beautiful surprise for me..so sweet of them :-) n "Manish" is also part of it....seriously I felt real good but still frm my inner core I was expecting someone "else" also to be thr...but never mind still whole day is thr for that..

After all cake facial n all that drama stuff Manish went back..Thanks guys to bring my fav chocolate cake(black forest) in the midnite..though half of it we wasted which was so painful for me...finally we slept because nxt day we all had our office n i wanted my full 8hrs sleep so tat i can look good nxt day..obviously it was my day !!!

Morning again started with nice surprise though i had already an idea bout it...obviously informer is "kritika"..one of kritika's frnd "Prashant" send me bouquet from Delhi..thanks for making my day special inspite i donno u much...

                                                               

Whole day in office busy with getting wishes, attending calls,Compliements( for my new dress) :P..but still sumthing was missing...again cake ceremony happened in office & got some gifts from my collegues..Thank u so much guys for all that...

Evening went out with Manish & Dhanya for dinner at ascendas tough i wanted to stay alone but i knew that these burggers will not allow me to be...In this way my day ended with that "Missing" feeling within me....